We gotta big ego

We Gotta Big Ego

Ok so the other day one of my home girls asked me "Quis can i ask you a question?". So I'm like sure shoot. She asks the age old question, " Why do men lie?". Of course that was followed by " what do it mean when he say he just needs time?". Soon after that, it was " well if he don't wanna be with me, why don't he just say so?". Now the truth to these answers and i mean the HONEST truth, you women don't want to hear... or you will deny it and come up with some reason on why your dude don't fit the description. Unfortunately for u, your reading the Real Talk blog and ima give you the truth.

First in foremost before i get into this, your probably thinking "Nigga you aint Dr. Phil! What in the fuck make u a expert!?!" My reply is, look at Dr. Phil? What in the fuck make him a expert! That dude dont strike me as a nigga who got alot of pussy in his lifetime. He probably married the first piece of pussy he ever had. Now me on the other hand, i grew up in the ghetto of Saginaw, Michigan so ive dealt with my share of fucking ghetto hoodrats and whorebags. I also met good strong black women there as well. I moved to Wisconsin, so of course i had to try some white pudding and ive threw in a couple Asians and his-panic ladies just for good measure. On top of that, im friends with college grads, ex murderers, current thugs, working men and a couple lames as well, so i hear all of they stories and i can chill with all these groups. On top of that, i was raised by a gang of women and i know how ya operate. So that's why im a mothafucka expert! ( SN: Men Asian women pussy isnt side ways for real, thats just a myth  and not all white girls likes and give good blowjobs....... just most lol )

Now to the topic, What you ladies must realize about most males is, we are ego driven. ALL OF US! Every last one of us fucking males are ego driven like a mothafucka! If a male tell you he isnt, he's a mothafucking lie! I purposely say male because this includes both men and niggas ( see older post for clarification ). See just as women is all about emotions, we are all about ego. See every man in his mind, no matter how fucked up he might be, i mean the nigga could be a jobless ass nigga, who lives in a shelter and eat canned corn for dinner everyday, and he still have a ego. He still thinks he's the shit in some way shape of form. He feels he's the best nigga in the world. He wont accept he a bum ass nigga because thats not how we operate. See a male thinks... fuck in his own mind, a man KNOWS he's better than other niggas in some way and we will take that one way and turn it into most things. I mean ANYTHING! If a male beat a nigga in basketball, he think hes can out fuck that nigga to! If a nigga beat a nigga in a video game, he think he should take that niggas paycheck. Even if the nigga he beat was at home in a mansion playing on a 55 inch LED Samsung and his ass was playing in his mamas basement on a 17 inch tv, that was sitting on the old school big tv, for that small time, he thinks hes the better man. Why do u think if one nigga get 20's the next nigga need 22's, than the next nigga need 24's, then 26's and then the hard working man say fuck ya clown cars, i want a benz! Its all ego! Im a better man than u. Now i have to say all of this so u have a understanding how the male ego works.

Now why wont a man let u leave even when he know he don't want u? First off, a man would, but a nigga? he wont! Why? EGO! He cant let no other man win! He has to be number 1 to u even if he don't want yo ass. A mans ego cant accept the fact of knowing u might be enjoying another dick more than his. His ego cant take it. He cant let you go and risk the fact that another man can possibly show you what you missing. NO WAY! That nigga will do whatever necessary to keep yo ass at arms length. See ya women like to play the " Well just do u and ima do me" shit. That bullshit dont work lol... see a nigga know u gone say that dumb ass shit. You know what that meant to him? " Just give me some dick so i can shut the fuck up". He will dick u down and u will be once again confused. See a nigga will never tell u its ok for u to move on. why? He doesnt want u too! If it was up to males, every chick hes ever fucked in life would never fuck another man ever and stalk ass forever. Everything males do is for the affection of a female. We don't get fly for us. We dont buy nice cars for us... We do it for new pussy! We do shit to make every female say "hes the best man out here". So do this man that wont let u leave have some deep connection to you because he say, " I love you and u know i wanna be with you"? HELL NO! Its ego! If he really wanted you, he would be with you! period! Something about u he dont want! He might like the pussy or something but he don't want you. What you have to do is understand, that nigga will never make you his queen. If his other options dry up, he might come back in gas u up for a ride for a lil minute, but he will never actually buy the car. Just leasing yo ass until some new shit come out.

"What does he mean when he say he just need time?". Look, all this shit means is one of 3 things. Now your situation will determine which one that it is.

1.) He got a better fucking option! See maybe at some point he was feeling you until a better option came through. You know what "time" means? " " hey i just need some time to see if this new bitch is really that bitch or not. If she aint on shit, ima come back and fuck with you though". EGO! He just keeps u there just in case. See males like to have just in case pussy. Men and Niggas both. Now men, never act on the impulse to fuck the just in case pussy. Niggas, have every intention on fucking them and adding more to the fucking collection. See in life u need safety nets. You always gotta be prepared for anything and in case of a fire you have a extinguisher, so with women males like to have the option in case of emergency. See nothing hurts the ego of a male more than being played and not being able to say " watever bitch! I gotta plenty other hoes". So your basically the fall back bitch!

2) He never really was wifing u up in the first place. You probably put some stipulation on ya situation, so he told you what he had to tell you to get what he wanted. Once he was done, it served him no purpose to continue to lie to yo ass. If you be on some " i only do this or dat with my man shit" he will tell you what u need to hear. Is that his fault? No its yours for thinking a stipulation gone change the situation. ( Read "Yes Your Still A Hoe'" For further details )

3.) Bitch your annoying and your getting on his damn nerves! All that constant naggin and ignorant bitching makes a male not wanna deal with yo ass. See the ego tells him, this bitch pressed! She acting crazy cause i fucked the shit outta her. See he know it serves no point to keep talking to u because he can call you at any time and your going. He can comfortably not deal with your annoying ass because he know you got DDS and aint going no damn where.

Now this was a little longer than usual because this is a complicated topic. Truth is, its alot more to this shit maybe i will do a part 2 one day. With all of this said, the problem isnt the man lying, the problem is you dont understand why that man is lying. All that its ok do u bullshit dont fly cause we know better. U dont really want him too, and he is already doing him, but he loves to see you miserable than a mothafucka! You wanna pull some shit? Tell that dude that u met some new guy and he's the shit! He's been cooking for you, he makes you laugh and the sex is the shit!!! You dont even have to have nobody just say it! Now... i would suggest over the phone because he might just give u a jab to yo temple in person. Now you will get a couple responses.

1.) He Will tell you what he really think about you. He  will call you a hoe, or say u aint shit. Or ask some corny homo shit like " Is his dick bigger than mine?". ( He's gets emotional because his ego is hurt. )

2) He will play it cool but ask egotistical arrogant ass questions like " Oh thats cool... I mean im happy you found someone who makes you happy." Dont be fooled by this comment. Give this guy about 2 weeks. he will call and "check" on your new dude. He want to see if your still happy... not really he want u to say you miss him and the new guy dont compare. ALL EGO! If you still all happy with the new dude and aint calling him and ignoring his calls, his ego gets hurt. He will eventually leave u alone, but the whole time he thinks " she fuck with that nigga but if i run into her somewhere, nigga i can still hit".

3.) That nigga just hang up the phone on yo ass and dont call back. Now he actually cared about u and not only was his ego hurt, he's disappointed in your decision and he dont wanna say nothing at all... This might be the nigga you wanna call back!