The Dynamic Failure

The Dynamic Failure of X,Y,Z.

Every relationship goes through its up's and downs, valleys and peaks, thoughts of happiness and thoughts of attempted murder. I guess it's all part of the relationship game. You ever been watching Dexter or CSI? Then you started to instantly plot the death of your mate? It’s a normal action because I’m sure your mate has also thought about murdering your ass at moments too. The thing about relationships whether it’s a boyfriend/girlfriend, homie, family member or any other person, every relationship is built off standard foundations. I like to call these the bases of the relationship or the “dynamic”. The biggest reason most relationships fails and take turns for the worse is because the relationship dynamic changes and once that dynamic change, its hard to damn near impossible to get it back. The dynamic isn’t something that can be faked or even acknowledged. The original dynamic is just that…dynamic. Its unspoken, it just happens but that unspoken dynamic will make or break your relationship because of the XYZ steps. A relationship is broken into 3 different stages but even in these stages, that original dynamic must always remain in tact. Certain things can change but the dynamic needs to remain the same at all times!!!

Now first lets understand the different dynamics of a relationship. You can meet a person and from the jump you two can vibe on some silly making each other laugh type shit, or you can meet each other and instantly have a sexual vibe or maybe its just very good intellectual conversations, but no matter what that original dynamic is? That’s the bases of your relationship and that can NEVER change! So you cant meet a person and you two start off going out to eat and going to the movies and then a year later you don’t nothing with each other. That’s when you start getting the “we don’t never do anything” `conversations. You cant start off fucking and doing all types of porno shit then start having “Im tired” all the time sex. Reason I tell niggas quit spending all their damn money is because once you tricking is part of the original dynamic, your broke ass have to spend forever. Don’t be trying to make yourself a baller from the get go when you got bench warmer money. That false dynamic will be the failure of your relationship. None of these things needs to even be said, they just happen. You just meet people and the natural dynamics form. I have dynamics with certain people I couldn’t even describe but its just part of it and if it changes we change. Look at it like this, most people who can cook don’t measure their ingredients to fry chicken. They just grab their spices and take out their food and season it. You know what you like and how you like your food to taste yet you just with no thoughts  season your food then you cook it.. You don’t use a timer or some set of rules, you just feel when its time to flip it and cook the other side and you do it all by feeling and look. Then when its ready, you enjoy what you created. Your dynamic is the same way. You don’t measure how you season that chicken you just do, but I bet if at some point a person just took that chicken and fried it without any seasonings and you bite into a bland piece of chicken it will change your perception on that damn chicken wing. You can try to re add salt and pepper and hot sauce after the fact, but its just not same. Its just not the same as that original seasoned up chicken wing. So this brings me to the first step of the relationship and this is GETTING a person. You have to do XYZ to get a person. So whatever your initial thing was to catch this person, you must continue. If it started off with good mornings, good nights, weekend outings, random blowjobs, naked pictures, good conversations, the ability to be emotional, etc you have to keep that up! That can not change because if you start changing it, all your doing is taking the seasoning off of the chicken. Nobody likes to eat a bland ass piece of chicken, so name one person who wants to be in a bland relationship when they know how good the chicken used to be?

2^nd stage is KEEPING a person. At this stage you already have the person. Your dynamic is already formed and you both should know what its your bases to your relationship even if its never said. It could be the fact you guys are honest, stable or whatever but you both should understand what your relationship bases consist of. This is the time where consciously you know what you did to get a person , you must try hard to keep those things up. Sometimes in this stage its easy to start focusing on new wants and needs that wasn’t originally there. You might find yourself saying Im going to start doing this and that for this person and that’s all cool, but don’t forget where you 2 started at. Its ok to throw a steak in the mix every now and then, but bitch your ass better not be taking your ass to grocery store and forgetting my damn chicken! Bitch you aint get me with Steak, you got me with chicken wings. Yes I enjoy steak and it’s a good contrast time to time, but you know what I like! You know what got me and you know what you need to do to keep me happy! Keeping a person is much harder than getting them because since people think they are adding in new dynamics they start slipping on the original dynamics. This  is why I tell people don’t start something you cant keep up. Once you have brought it to the table from the jump it will be the expectations of you. Don’t start off cleaning and cooking and being cool about it, and then later you bitching and moaning every time you pick up a nigga sock. Your ass shouldve started out bitching from the jump so I have the option of keeping you or pitching your motherfucking ass! Just like you had to do XYZ to get a nigga, you also have to do XYZ to KEEP a nigga!

3^rd and most important stage is not LOSING a person! Now this is typically where the whole relationship breaks down at. This is typically the failure in the dynamics of the relationship. This is where over time people have grown selfish, they play the blame game on who changed, you don’t look the same no more, we don’t talk no more, pussy and dick done became expired because ya failed at the keep stage, so now people is making each other feel unwanted.Why would i want to be with a person who dont want me?. Now you have that well "I don’t need you attitude". Now you have that " I aint finna do shit and if you don’t like it you can go" attitude. This is why people stay getting divorced. Nobody cares enough to fight for a person because most people fail with keeping there original dynamics up so there is nothing in them that is scared to lose the person they are with. If you REALLY love a person, the thought of them not being around should scare the shit out of you! Why and HOW can you love a person and you let things that you ORIGINALLY was doing destroy your bond? Was there ever really a bond? Was there ever love? Shit what is love if you can on drop of a dime turn it on and off? Could you turn off loving your mother? Or your child? Then why is so easy to turn off a person you claim you love? Is it because you cant remake that child or that mother? Or is it because you’re scared to death to think of your life without those people… If your scared to lose the person you love, you should’ve been trying your hardest to never get to a point of losing them. You should’ve tried your hardest to continue doing XYZ to get them, XYZ to keep them and XYZ not to lose them! You cant do X and Z or X and Y, it takes everything that originally started it to continue it.   Otherwise you have a incomplete alphabet and most importantly a incomplete relationship. Once you have that, you  have a dynamic failure!